If you are someone that keeps making bad comparisons with others that make you feel negative about yourself then your self-esteem is going to be low. When you see that your neighbor has a brand new car and your car is years old then you can go into a negative spiral which will lower your self-esteem dramatically.
You start to question your worth. “Why don’t I earn enough money to buy a new car?” and other similar thoughts fill your head. This is not rational behavior as you don’t know the full story. Your neighbor might have received the car as part of his job or even leased it. All you are focusing on is the pain and the fact that you are not good enough.
So if you find yourself in a situation like this how can you boost your self-esteem so that you stop having such a low opinion of yourself which makes you feel terrible? We have some great techniques for you in this article.
List your previous Achievements
We have all achieved a number of things in our lives and often don’t give ourselves any credit for doing this. Just because millions of other people passed their driving test doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t give yourself credit for doing this too.
Take some time out and write down some of your past achievements. If you had to overcome a number of challenges to achieve something then these need to be on your list. It doesn’t matter how insignificant you think these achievements are. Just write them down and reflect on how well you did.
Stop Dwelling in the Past
Something that will definitely affect your self-esteem in the wrong way is to dwell on the past mistakes you have made. Everyone makes mistakes but people with high self-esteem learn from their mistakes and move on. They don’t keep raking up the past so that it influences their future.
A lot of people believe that if they tried something once and failed that they will never be able to do this in the future. Do you think like this? So if you wanted to learn Spanish in the past and gave up after a few days this means that you will never be able to learn Spanish. This is just ridiculous and you are letting your past rule you.
Look your Best
A lot of people with low self-esteem get to the point where they do not care how they present themselves to the world. If you are a man then maybe you haven’t had a shave for a few days and you look terrible.
To give yourself a much-needed boost shave off that horrible stubble now and put on some nice clothes. If you are a woman then get your hair done or your nails. Buy some new clothes that you can wear outside with pride. This will give your self-esteem a much-needed boost.
Instead of competing with other people, try and compete with yourself. What I mean by this is, when you compare yourself you often look at what others have compared to what you have, or what they have achieved versus what you have achieved.
Try and take a different approach and start looking at what you have now versus what you had last year. For example, when you are thinking about your career, try and ask yourself are you more satisfied with your job now than last year, or are you happier about your life now than you were last year?
Don’t let Fear hold you back
We all have irrational fears that we carry around with us. People with low self-esteem can have a lot more of these than others do. The best way to boost your self-esteem in this situation is to tackle a fear head on and do it anyway.
This is not going to be easy for you but once you have challenged this fear and done something that scared you before you will feel so much better about yourself. To identify an irrational fear today and just go for it!