Tip #6: Pay Attention to Body Language
Body language speaks louder than words ever could. If you want to know what he’s feeling, and whether he’s genuinely interested in getting to know beyond sexual attraction, you’ll want to pay close attention to where his gaze rests and whether he leans in when he speaks to you.
Research has shown that when someone is truly attracted to another they often allow their gaze to linger on the person’s face that they’re talking to, rather than scan their body.
And remember, this goes both ways.
Your own body language will tell your date whether you’re interested in him or not so if you want to show him you’re attracted, let your body language tell the story.
Here are a few tips:
Make Eye Contact:
Not only is this a sign of respect, but it tells him that you’re interested in what he has to say.
Your posture can indicate that you’re tired or bored just as much as it can tell him you’re really feeling a connection. Slouching indicates a lack of energy and interest so sit up straight or lean in to his direction.
It’s the easiest way to let someone know you’re interested in them and it’s simply a universal sign of happiness. It’s also a great way to flirt without going overboard.
Let your body language represent your interest or connection in someone and boost the quality of your dates up by making it clear that you’re having a great time and are thoroughly enjoying your time together.
Tip #7: Listen To Your Instincts
It’s easy to get excited about a date and share your experiences with friends and family to get feedback or validation that there might be something worthy of perusing.
The problem comes when you end up misadvised, or you follow the advice from someone who may not have your best interests at heart.
Or perhaps they simply don’t know the person you’re dating and are basing their opinions on their own past dating failures or expectations.
It’s important that you follow your own instincts (and heart!) when it comes to dating. If the person makes you feel comfortable and you are finding yourself having a great time, don’t let anyone discourage you from seeing it through.
You know yourself better than anyone, and so if you pay attention to what your gut is telling you, and you go into every date with an open heart and mind, you’ll never be misled.
Tip #8: Put Yourself First
A lot of us are fearful of hurting someone’s feelings, especially when it comes to rejection.
The truth is, you owe it to yourself to value your time and energy and so if you aren’t feeling a connection, don’t let someone else’s feelings, or your concern that he’ll be discouraged, get in the way of your own feelings.
Always do what’s best for yourself first.
Let him down gently, but firmly. You are looking for love and every date you go out on takes up a lot of mental and emotional energy so you need to keep those tanks filled.
Wasting time on dates that you know aren’t going to lead anywhere are not only robbing you of finding true love, but it’s also not fair to the person you’re spending time with.
It’s easy to lead someone on out of fear of causing them pain but in the end, he will respect your honesty because it sets him free so he can continue his journey to finding his perfect match. Don’t play games.
Tip #9: Don’t Over-Research
While it’s important to take measures to ensure your safety when going out on dates, you don’t want to do so much research that there’s little left to learn about someone you’re potentially interested in.
Over-researching can also lead to pre-judging. Don’t end up with a tainted viewpoint simply because you’ve uncovered bits and pieces about someone without knowing his entire story.
Give him a fair chance! Unless you’ve uncovered things about him that cause you to feel genuinely concerned, or may put your safety in harm’s way, leave it up for discovery as you get to know him. A little mystery can add a lot of excitement to a new relationship.
And finally, don’t ask your friends to tell you everything they know about him! If you’re being set up by a friend, trust their judgement and leave it at that. Learn for yourself how you feel about him and let the magic happen organically.
Tip #10: Keep It In Present
We’ve discussed the damage to what could have been a potentially genuine connection by over-sharing and it’s especially true when it comes to discussing your past relationships.
Even if your previous relationship ended on good terms you don’t want to involve him in your conversation.
So, no saying things like, “you look just like my ex!”. Not only is comparing him to someone from your past disrespectful, but it will just make things awkward.
No one wants to feel like they’ll need to compete with someone’s past, so don’t put that on him.
Plus, if you tend to talk about your ex, chances are you’re not over him which will be a huge red flag to a potential new partner.
So, there you have it! We’ve covered the top 10 tips to improving the quality of your dates and setting yourself on the path towards making and nurturing genuine connections.
Now it’s up to you. You deserve to be happy and to find a partner that makes you feel as though you’re the only woman on earth, but how you go about it will make or break your chances at finding that special someone.
I hope these tips and strategies help you find love. To further help you on your journey I’m including a link to a website dedicated to providing additional tips on the real purpose of dating.
Here’s to your finding your happily ever after!